BWRT Therapy – 21st Century Rapid Help

BWRT Therapy – A New Approach

BWRT or Brain Working Recursive Therapy offers a new and radical approach to helping people to make changes to their lives. Most people live their lives and only occasionally develop a problem that they can’t resolve themselves. Most people are self-responsible and have the insight to make those changes to their lives that succeed.

Sometimes though people need some extra assistance or need to discover some new way of thinking or perceiving a life challenge that only another person can help with. Even the most successful people in the world have their own coaches and therapists and there is no reason why anyone should not be able to have some extra help when they need it. After all none of us has all the answers

BWRT or Brain Working Recursive Therapy is a new approach to helping people to rid themselves of unwanted behaviours such as bad habits, bad reactions (eg losing your temper) and addictions. Any behaviour that you seem to be unable to change may respond well to BWRT.

 

How does BWRT work?

Rather than focussing on the idea of the mind and its division between conscious and subconscious parts. BWRT utilises the processing and speed of the brain. It is the brain that quickly makes decisions about how to react to a situation and it does so very rapidly. So rapidly in fact that a person may have little conscious control over it.

The brain does not make decisions about how to react based on logic. It bases its decisions on associations and past reactions. Therefore if anxiety has been present every time someone sees a spider, the brain will choose the association between detecting the spider and anxiety. It will happen very quickly and the person with arachnophobia will have little chance to stop themselves having a panic attack.

BWRTWhen the brain is stimulated it fires electrical pulses via neurons that are all interconnected. This is called a neural network. Stimuli that have been experienced before, such as catching a ball, will trigger a series of electrical pulses that navigate through the same neural pathways as the have always done to enable the ball to be caught. The same is true of any repetitive behaviours such as driving a car or riding a bike. The brain just looks for similarities in what it happening and elicits a similar response.

BWRT trains the brain to have a different response to the stimuli that would have triggered the unwanted reaction and behaviour.

 

BWRT Can Be Done in Secret

One of the assets of BWRT over other therapies is that the BWRT therapist doesn’t need to know the content of what it is that you want to change. So if you had an issue that you didn’t want to discuss the details of, you could still benefit from BWRT. The BWRT therapist can guide you through the process without needing to know the content of the issue.

 

 

 

 

 

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Anxiety? Hypnotherapy Helps

stressedman01Anxiety, no matter what its cause, is an unpleasant feeling. It affects our mood, motivation, confidence, concentration and sleep. Anxiety is at the root of most problems, issues and life challenges that a hypnotherapist is asked to help with.

Cause of Anxiety
More often than not, anxiety has as its cause, fear. This fear is about the loss of something and that something might be status, respect, finances, a relationship, the home, job or other loss. Interestingly it is the anticipation of some event, whether it occurs or not, that brings the anxious feeling.

For example an office worker might hear gossip that there are going to be redundancies. He quickly realises that if he loses his job his financial status will deteriorate and he worries, frets and experiences anxiety.

Anxiety – The body Responds
Anxiety leads to increased hormonal production and in particular adrenaline. Adrenaline gets the body ready for action. The “fight or flight” syndrome kicks in. The muscles may tense, blood is drawn away from the digestive system (hence a loss of appetite is experienced) and the peripheral vision increases (hence the reduction in focusing ability.

This and many other examples are perceived threats to someone’s lifestyle and status quo. Actual and perceived threats can result in the same anxiety. More often than not perceived changes never materialise and the anxiety, worry and fear dissipate.

For some though, the anxiety stays. For this person It’s almost like they can’t trust themselves or their world enough to be able to relax. They expect something to go wrong sooner or later and so they begin to worry about what next event will give them anxiety.

Social Phobia
Others learn to be anxious during certain experiences. Social phobia is the fear of being with people in certain situations. This anxiety might not be present if the social phobic is on familiar ground and only meeting one person. However anxiety can arise if they are invited to a new venue and they have to socialise with two or more people.

Anxiety from phobias are learnt responses and can be unlearned.

Anxiety, Hypnotherapy Helps
Hypnotherapy is particularly effective at helping to uncover the cause of a person’s anxiety. Then through the teaching of self-hypnosis, the previously anxious person can learn a relaxation technique to control, reduce and resolve the links to experiences, perceptions and anxiety.

Hypnotherapy for anxiety is one of the most popular issues any hypnotherapist has requests to help with.

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Steven Harold BA(Hons) DCH DHP
Clinical Hypnotherapist – London and Essex

Website: www.hypno-therapist.com Email: mindfully@hypno-therapist.com

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I Don’t Deserve … Happiness, Success, Joy

I Don’t Deserve Happiness

I have heard this expression many times since I have been practising hypnotherapy over the last 16 years. Many people say I don’t deserve….. and the dots represent many things that have been said to me about not feeling worthy of something that is positive.

Typically the statements I hear and a variation are …

  • I don’t deserve to be happy (or I should be unhappy)
  • I don’t deserve to be successful (or I deserve to fail)
  • I don’t deserve to be rich (or I should be poorer)
  • I don’t deserve this promotion (or I am not good enough)
  • I don’t deserve to be loved (or I am unlovable)
  • I don’t deserve to be treated well (or I should be punished/treated badly)
  • I don’t deserve to be in this relationship (or they should have someone better than me)

These statements show a certain belief. It’s a belief that a person holds about themselves. The interesting thing is that on an intellectual and conscious level this person knows that they should deserve happiness etc but there is something more powerful that contradicts this intellectual stance. A belief is much more powerful and tends to over-ride the conscious logical part of the mind.

A belief is supported by some deep feeling that someone has concluded about themselves. Most often this belief happens when they were a child or through a series of experiences as an adult (or a combination of these two).

 

Do you test how much someone loves you?

i don't deserve happinessIf you are constantly pushing your partner/husband/wife away to test if they love you enough then you probably have a deserving belief issue. If you keep doing or saying things that test your partners or friends loyalty, love, and friendship than you are showing that you have a need for constant reassurance.

The problem is that no matter how much your partner says they love you, no matter how many times they stay with you despite the testing you put them through, it never is enough for you to change your belief about yourself. The belief being that you are not worthy or don’t deserve them, their love, happiness, security or more.

It could also be the reason why you might stay in an unhealthy, abusive, highly-critical relationship because you believe being treated badly is what you deserve and this is the best you can get.

 

Do You Self-Sabotage?

If you get that promotion do you do something to undermine your success? Maybe at the interview you deliberately say something that you know will sabotage your chances of getting the new job. If you run your own business and have been enjoying some success is there a part of you that starts to sabotage your success and your business starts to fail?

At sport when you are playing competitively and winning do you find that you start to sabotage your game and subsequently lose?

 

When Happiness Arrives Are You Waiting for Sadness?

Some people have noticed a pattern in their lives. They have noticed that when they experience a happy event (eg. getting married, getting promoted, getting a nice home) that a sad or troubling event can happen (eg. a loved one dies, they are made redundant, the neighbours are awful). They start to believe that if they have a happy event that there will be a sad event that follows it. Because of this they feel unable to enjoy the happy event and are fearful that a sad event is looming.

Some experts say that this is because historically we have had to look out for danger first and then we can relax. Even when relaxed we can be surprised and caught out by a shocking event. This may well be part of some genetic inheritance. This can be compounded by parents, teachers and other adults who warn children of dangers whenever they are having a happy event. They might say to a child who is playing on a swing Watch you don’t hit you head or if they play in the park don’t speak to any strangers.

This is all good advice but unfortunately it makes an immediate association between fun (happiness) and danger (fear). Most children will accept this communication in the way it was intended but others will derive a deeper meaning from it and create a belief that happiness leads to unhappiness. This misunderstanding can affect them for the rest of their lives unless they do something to change it. The incorrect belief is often called a toxic belief.

 

The Pain of Guilt

Guilt can form part of the self-sabotaging behaviour. After all if you believe you don’t deserve love, happiness and security and yet you have all of these, you may well feel guilty that you have what you feel you don’t deserve.

In feeling guilty you may then feel the need to punish yourself or to prove that you are unworthy, bad, not good enough or not deserving of a happy life.

Compliments or nice things people say about you are rejected. You may make a compliment into a joke as a way of not having to accept it. You may undermine a compliment by saying actually I was lucky or give someone else the credit in order not to accept the compliment. This is all a pity because it can keep you trapped in that same old belief of I don’t deserve…

 

Freedom to Deserve Happiness, Joy and Love

Whatever you think you have done or not done, you have probably punished yourself enough don’t you think? Whether you have made a series of decisions that didn’t work out, are in a bad relationship, awful job or have just grown up with shaming or critical people around you, you don’t have to be a victim any more of them or that toxic belief.

 

Hypnotherapy and Deserving a Great Life

I use hypnotherapy and other powerful therapies to help you free yourself from that unhelpful and unhealthy view of yourself. Just imagine having the freedom to enjoy each moment as it arises. Imagine the freedom to take things in stride and to be okay with happy and challenging events. Imagine what it would be like to move towards more and more fulfilling your potential in life.

All of these wonderful states of being and feelings of empowerment can be yours and it all begins with you. And if you want some support to get you going hypnotherapy can provide the solid foundations for positive changes that can be yours to keep, to cherish and to grow.

There has never been another “you” and that “you” is well worth being proud of no matter where you are in your life today. It’s time to start celebrating your life and all that’s out there in your future.
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By Steven Harold

BA(Hons) DCH DHP
Clinical Hypnotherapist – London and Essex

Email: steve@mindfullywell.com
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Erection Problems, Help for Impotence

Erection Problems or Impotence

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) or impotence as it is often called, can occur in men at any age. Most often it is after the age of 65 or can be a symptom of either medication we have to take or some physical disease such as diabetes. Sometimes though erection problems can be mostly in the mind.

Physical Erectile Dysfunction

The loss of an erection, or the lack of the ability to gain an erection enough to give satisfying sexual intercourse, can when it persists, be a sign of some other  physical issue. Should you lose your erection, or be unable to gain an erection repeatedly it is important to get this investigated by your medical practitioner or doctor.
Physical causes of impotence can be the restriction of blood flow going to the penis. The cause of this might be diabetes, high cholesterol, hypertension, surgery or some form of injury. Smoking can lead to the furring up of arteries that also lead to erection problems. The good news is that many of these issues can be treated and improvements can be made to gain a good erection. What will also help is a healthier lifestyle such as taking exercise and eating a balanced diet.

Psychological Impotence

For some men the cause of their erection is pyschological. Depression, anxiety or problems in the relationship may lead to erection problems. Sometimes a loss of sexual confidence can be due to a lack of understanding that an erection may come and go a number of times during love-making. Unnecessary pressure to get an erection, sometime referred to as performance anxiety, doesn’t help the situation. Making love when an argument hasn’t really been resolved or some resentment in a partner exists, is never a good idea.

Psychosexual Therapy

Once a man has become fearful that they will not get an erection, this fear can become the dominant thought when he makes love. Unfortunately “fear” is not ordinarily useful in sexual arousal and for someone with erection problems it can lead to what’s called a self-fulfilling prophecy. You fear you won’t get and erection and because that dominates your thoughts you are unable to become erect.
In psychosexual therapy emphasis is put on healthier and more supportive thinking that is much more likely to lead to a strong erection and restore sexual confidence. Often referred to as sensate focus, the mind is encouraged to focus on the errogenous zones of the partner’s body. This focus enables the body to do what it does naturally when seeing (for real or imaging) what turns you on sexually;  an erection. With sexual confidence an erection occurs naturally because a man focusses on what is sexually exciting to him.
It really helps if your partner is supportive and patient during this time. Unfortunately some partners can take it very personally and believe that the man no longer finds them sexually attractive. This in turn can put pressure back on you as you try to prove you still find them attractive.

Hypnotherapy for Erection Problems (Impotence)

Hypnotherapy can help to change your mind and regain your sexual confidence once you have eliminated any physical causes for your erection problem with your doctor. Steven Harold an experienced hypnotherapist has helped many men to regain an erection and be confident in their love-making. Steven uses a combination of self hypnosis, hypnotherapy and other brief therapy processes (EFT, NLP) to help you feel confident.
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confidence hypnotherapist londonAuthor’s Details
By Steven Harold

BA(Hons) DCH DHP
Clinical Hypnotherapist – London and Essex

Email: steve@mindfullywell.com
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Low Confidence? Gain Better Self Confidence

Low Confidence

If you feel you have low confidence then you are not alone. Many people have this feeling that they lack strong confidence. Confidence is such an important part of our lives because it allows us to feel comfortable and more relaxed in many situations.

 

Low Confidence Restricts People’s Lives and Ambitions

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Low Confidence?

It’s true to say that when we feel a lack of confidence we are much less likely to put ourselves in unfamiliar situations. Low confidence tends to restrict people’s lives because it keeps them trapped into doing and experiencing the same things that they are familiar with.

 

Low Confidence and Your Job

People who lack self confidence often won’t change their jobs. They may want to change but the low confidence they feel prevents them from doing so. Even though they have out-grown their current job, at least it provides some sense of safety as they know it so well. Unfortunately that sense of familiarity and safety eats away at your confidence

 

Low Confidence in Relationships

Whether the relationship is at work with your colleagues or boss, is with friends or family or your partner, low confidence can stop you leading a happier and more fulfilling life. Low confidence can prevent you applying for promotion or asking the boss for a pay rise. Low confidence can prevent feeling equal to your friends and they may bully you into doing what you don’t really want to do or they may just take advantage of you. In your personal relationship you may find yourself acting as a “door mat” and feeling abused and used in your relationship.

Some people’s low confidence can get in the way of them finding a personal  relationship in the first place.

 

Low Confidence in Life

We can all take for granted the seemingly ordinary everyday activities like using the telephone, shopping at the local supermarket or engaging in a conversation with a neighbour. Yet any or all of these activities might fill someone who has low confidence with dread at the thought of them.  Some people will cross the street to avoid someone they know. Others will have home shopping deliveries to avoid going to the supermarket and interacting with other shoppers. Unfortunately all these tactics reinforce a lack of confidence rather than boost it.

 

 

Where Did my Lack of Confidence Come From?

This is often a question asked at the free hypnosis consultation.  For some people it might be that a parent lacked confidence and as a child you somehow assimilated this way of being. Another person might have experienced parents, teachers or other adults who were overly critical.  Someone else may have had an embarrassing moment at school, college or work. There are many experiences that have the potential to make us doubt ourselves and dent our confidence.

 

How do I get Stronger self Confidence?

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Better Confidence

There are many ways that you can gain strong self confidence. As a hypnotherapist in London I have found that a combination of hypnotherapy and other brief therapies help to reduce anxiety and fear and build strong sustainable self confidence. We are all different and at the free consultation you can find out more about hypnosis and how it can help your self confidence and your desires and ambitions in life.

Just imagine how turning low confidence into better self confidence could transform or enrich your life.

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confidence hypnotherapist londonAuthor’s Details
By Steven Harold

BA(Hons) DCH DHP
Clinical Hypnotherapist – London and Essex

Email: steve@mindfullywell.com
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